|Posted on April 25, 2016 at 3:10 PM|
I’m sorry that your friend has died. I know how close you were. So close that you may feel the emotional and physical pain that your friend experienced. So close that you may feel like a piece of yourself is missing now. I feel sad knowing that you are suffering; which is why I have devoted my life to finding a solution.
Being with a person for as little as 30 minutes links them to you through the Mirror Neuron Network (MNN). The connecting and empathy neurons of the brain are called Mirror Neurons. When the MNN is activated, Oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is a powerful bonding hormone that links a mother with her baby and increases whenever we hug someone. When we become separated from a loved one, the MNN becomes “broken” and we experience the painful yearning of wanting to reconnect. Grief can be shared through the MNN and affect hundreds and even millions of people. Who has not felt sadness about the tragic deaths of Robin Williams, Steve Irwin and Princess Diana?
The sadness of losing a loved one is painful and the yearning to reconnect is so powerful that many people experience complex and prolonged grief. Some may feel survivor’s guilt since they were not able to prevent a friend’s death. In my experience working with Traumatic Grief, I think this is why the rate of suicide of Veterans exceeds the rate of death in combat. It is painful to watch a brother die and not be able to stop it.
What if there were a solution to the intense suffering of losing a loved one? What if you could look at photos and have happy memories? What if you could think about a friend or loved one and feel connected and whole again? What if it were possible to directly heal the MNN that has been “broken” from grief? Now there is a way to repair the MNN with a new psychotherapy method called Revisioning. Revisioning is the fastest available psychotherapy to heal many forms of complicated or prolonged grief; including Traumatic Grief and Persistent Complex Bereavement Disorder.
Grief affects all of us. If you feel unable to function in your daily life because of grief or have chronic numbness, depression or physical symptoms, then it is important to contact a mental health professional. If you are feeling suicidal, text anonymously anytime 741-741 to reach a counselor or call the 24-hour line 1 (800) 273-8255. Veterans 1 (800) 273-8255.
For more information about Grief and Revisioning, contact Lynn Heselton, MSN, APRN, PMHCNS-BC. Read more about Revisioning in my new book, Revisioning: Rapid Mirror Neuron Psychotherapy for Grief and Trauma (2016) by Dr. Mark Rider and Lynn Heselton.
A Broken Heart and Broken Mirror Neuron Network by Lynn Heselton is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License.